Can love be unspoken? I used to think so.
I used to think that if I thought very hard about my love for someone, and did things that expressed my love, and hoped that my love was understood, that it was what I needed, or wanted. It took awhile, and a lot of hurt, but I can now definitively answer “No.”
Let me ask you (“you” being myself, in this case) a question.
Why would you choose to stay quiet if you are in love? If you truly are, and not just infatuated, or obsessed, or crushing, then you feel a particularly strong way towards that person. Wouldn’t you like them to know that? Shouldn’t they be aware, so that they, and you, may act upon it?
I prefer to say this aloud now. I try to tell my wife that I love her every single day (if it’s anything like this daily blog, I’m failing hard). I tell my family that I love them. I tell my aunts and uncles and cousins and friends whenever possible. It’s not a sign of weakness. It doesn’t make me less of a man. It allows me to show my gratitude for their love towards me.
So if you could choose, will you stay silent for a long time, or will you tell them right away? I’d rather be realistic in my love for others.
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