No, seriously…forget about it. Drop the memory. Lose the thought. Let your mind wander. Let your freedom soar. It’s gone far away, and if you chase it, only disappointment will follow.
I’m sorry. That’s depressing.
But it’s true. Sometimes, when you lose things, you should get them back. Like family members. And strong friendships. And God. But other times, when what you want slips away, and you want to chase it…you must let it go. Basically, whatever’s the hard thing to do is usually the right thing to do. And no lying to yourself about what’s hard.
Yeah, I know you people. I watch you. I talk to you. I KNOW YOU. If it’s not money, it’s relationships.
“Oh no, I lost her! Maybe I should do something romantic to get her back! Hmm…maybe I’ll SLEEP WITH HER! Yeah, that’s a good idea!”
“Oh no! He doesn’t like me anymore! Maybe I should try to draw him back. Hmmm…let’s see. Oh yeah! I’ll act like a SLUT! Whoo hoo! That’s SMART!”
Okay, well, it’s convincing. No, really…you’ve convinced me that there’s no possible way on this earth that you’ll ever have a meaningful relationship with anybody. You’ve completely made up my mind for me. There’s not a single chance on this planet of your ever finding somebody you can live with for the rest of your life. Selfishness, greed, pity, temptation, self-inflicted mental torment…I’ve seen it all. Don’t you ever wonder why so many couples get divorced? Why so many cheat on their spouses? Why premature, immature relationships never work?
So the next time something like this happens to you (and it will…if not a romantic relationship, then a friend or a family member), try to think of all the things you did to encourage it. All the stuff you said to provoke it. All the misleading, manipulating, judging, conniving, cowering, lying, and controlling you did to help grow you apart. And then drop that incriminating finger you’re pointing. Forget about them. Look at yourself. Are you ready?
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